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  • Writer's pictureDiana Pompilii-Rosi

Sex Coach, Sex Therapist vs Sexologist: Which is Right for you?

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Embarking on a journey toward enriched sexual well-being is a transformative experience. This often begins with a pivotal choice: selecting a sex coach, sex therapist, vs sexologist. Each of these options offer a unique path in navigating the landscape of intimacy and sexual health. 

Choosing between a sex coach, a sex therapist, or a sexologist involves understanding their distinct roles. It also includes identifying their expertise in order to find the right professional for your unique needs and goals.  

Exploring the Roles of Sex Coaches, Sex Therapists vs. Sexologists

While sex coaches, sex therapists, and sexologists all address issues related to sexual function, pleasure, and health, they differ in their approaches, methods, and types of issues they typically handle.  

A Sex Coach is a professional who provides guidance and education to individuals or couples on their sexual concerns, intimacy, communication, sexual techniques, and overall sexual wellness. They help individuals or couples improve their sexual performance and satisfaction, often through practical advice and goal-oriented actions. Their approach to coaching is generally non-therapeutic, and does not address any deep psychological issues. A sex coach is like a personal trainer for sex, focusing on improving sexual well-being through education and skills development without providing mental health treatment.  

A Sex Therapist is a licensed mental health professional who helps individuals or couples address psychological and emotional issues related to sex. Therapy may involve delving into past traumas, mental health conditions, emotional blocks, and relationship dynamics. Working with a sex therapist involves a longer, more in-depth process focused on healing.  

Sex therapists concentrate specifically on providing therapeutic interventions to address sexual difficulties or concerns. They use talk therapy and psychoeducational therapeutic techniques such as cognitive-behavioral therapy, psychodynamic therapy, or mindfulness-based therapies to help clients explore and overcome issues such as sexual dysfunction, communication problems, intimacy issues, sexual trauma, and other challenges that may affect sexual well-being.  

A Sexologist is a professional who studies and specializes in the scientific study of human sexuality including sexual behavior, sexual health, and sexual relationships. However, the term sexologist is also used to describe someone who works in private practice including counseling or therapy.   

While traditional sexologists study sex and do not typically offer personal coaching or therapy, clinical sexologists, like Tantra Certified Sexologists, do. A Tantra Certified Sexologist is a professional who blends the traditional academic and scientific study of sexology with the principles and practices of Tantra, an ancient spiritual practice that sees sexual energy as a path to greater personal understanding and spiritual growth.    

In addition to providing education, a Tantra Certified Sexologist uses body-based therapy to help individuals and couples explore their sexuality in a more profound and connected way. The Tantra approach to sex therapy involves various body-based exercises and practices that enhance sexual and emotional connection and that integrate sexuality holistically into one’s life.  

Factors to Consider When Choosing a Professional

Whether you are seeking guidance for sexual dysfunction, education on safe practices, or a space for open dialogue about sexual identity, it is essential to find a practitioner who can offer a supportive, non-judgmental environment where confidentiality is paramount and one’s well-being is the central focus.    

There are several factors to consider when deciding whether to work with a sex coach, sex therapist, or sexologist. It is important to start first by identifying and understanding the nature of your concerns and whether they are primarily about improving your sexual experience or are deeply rooted in psychological issues.  

If there is a psychological component to your sexual concerns, then a sex therapist would be more appropriate. For practical advice and skills improvement without deep psychological intervention, a sex coach is a good choice. For practical advice with hands-on, body-based exercises and practices for deeper connection and improved sexual freedom, a Tantra Certified Sexologist would be the better choice. Regardless of your choice, it is important to ensure that any treatment plan is customized and tailored to meet your individual concerns, needs, and goals.   

Criteria for Choosing a Sexual Health Professional


When choosing a sexual health professional, there are several qualities that you should look for.  

  • Safe Environment:  Ensuring that the professional creates a safe, open, and non-judgmental space that allows you to explore and enhance your sexuality without judgement should be at the top of the list.   

  • Therapist-Client Compatibility: Working with a professional that is a right ‘fit’ and that you feel comfortable with will help facilitate deeper discussions and exploration, openness and honesty, and contributes greatly to the success of the therapy.  

  • Accredited Credentials: Certification is a strong indication that the professional has completed some level of training or education. Look for certification from a reputable organization.  

  • Specialization and Treatment Methods:  Using a professional who specializes in the issues that you’re experiencing and that offers a variety of treatment methods can also ensure success of the therapy.

  • Logistics:  Consider location, session length, frequency of sessions, and cost (including insurance and sliding scale fees).  

  • Confidentiality: Your privacy must be a top priority. Ensure that the professional follows strict confidentiality rules or Code of Ethics.  

  • Cultural Sensitivity: Depending on your issues, it can be important to find someone who is sensitive to and respectful of your cultural background and identity.  

Leveraging Local Resources and Referrals 

There you have it! Now you know the main difference between a sex coach, sex therapist, and sexologist. Know which type of professional to work with but don’t know where to find them? Well, there are a vast number of online directories that can assist you in finding the right professional for you.  

Online Directories

American Board of Sexology (ABS): The American Board of Sexology provides quality assurance to consumers in selecting qualified sex therapists, sex counselors, and sex educators. You can find them at:

Institute of Authentic Tantra Education (IATE): Looking for a professional with a somatic, tantric focus to sexual healing and sexual freedom, then check out the online directory of Certified Authentic Tantra® Practitioners at

Psychology Today: If you are looking for someone who treats deep rooted psychological issues, then Psychology Today offers one of the most comprehensive directories of licensed psychologists, psychotherapists, counsellors, and social workers.  

Sexual Health Organizations

Exploring resources provided by different sexual health organizations like Sexual Health Ontario or The Centre for Sexuality can help promote educated, safe, and healthy sexual practices. Not only does this give people access to a broad spectrum of information and perspectives but it can also provide specialized guidance relevant to individual needs, as well as offer support networks, allowing individuals to connect with others facing similar sexual health issues. Most organizations also offer confidential assistance and many online resources can be accessed anonymously.

If you would like more information about how a Tantra Certified Sexologist can help you in achieving sexual health and freedom, then fill out the form in the 'contact me' page for a complimentary discovery call where we can determine how I might be able to help you in your journey of healing and personal transformation.

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